One thing that I can’t stand to hear from any one, regardless if it is an adult or child, is that they are “Trying”.
As Yoda says, “No! Try not. There is no TRY. There is do or do not.”
When you say you are “trying”, that gives you an easy out. If you don’t do it, you can ease your conscience by saying, “Well, I TRIED my best.” You didn’t do what you said you were going to do. You came up with excuses. Stop lying to yourself and those around you. What really happened is that it wasn’t important enough for you to figure out a way to do what you said you were going to do. Stop trying to make yourself look better. Stop lying to those around you because you don’t actually have the guts to say you don’t want to do something. Say what you mean and then do it. If it is hard or you truly can’t do it, then figure out a way to get the help you need to get it done.
Perfection – it’s evil
Part of the problem, as I see it, is our addiction to perfection or, even more so, our addiction to the notion of perfection. So many people are afraid of doing things wrong that they don’t do them at all. I stand against perfection – I believe that done is better than perfect.
Now, I am OCD on many, many things – grammar and proper use of English is one as I totally freak out if I read something that is published and when I go back to reread it later I find mistakes. For those of you who may have downloaded some of my resources, you may have caught them. I typed the information in Word, but then my designer changed it to a PDF and the conversion didn’t go smoothly. I KNEW I had done it correctly, so I just glanced at the final copy, really only looking for how he designed it, not the content. Then months later, I actually READ it and found several errors on 2 of the papers. That was horrible for me! I won’t be skimming in the future.
However, a lesson to be learned from my mistake, is that you can most likely always go back and fix mistakes. Life is a constant learning curve. You should always be doing the best you can at the moment, then when you can do better, do better. Don’t let perfection stand in the way of progress. Yes, there are times when perfection is absolutely necessary, like brain surgery or the calculations to send a rocket to the moon, but those times are few and far between. Love yourself and your children for who they are. Strive to be better today than you were yesterday, and don’t be so afraid of failure it stops you from starting something new. Get the help you need to be a better parent. Your children will love you no matter what.
Be the Parent YOUR Children NEED You To Be
As parents, we are a beacon of hope for our children. They look up to us to see how we behave and they mimic what we do. Even teenagers who you think would do the exact opposite – they are learning from you. Do you want them to be so afraid they won’t try new things? I see so many children who fail – not because they are stupid, but because they are AFRAID of being stupid. So, in order for them not to look stupid, they are on purpose – then it’s their choice. They don’t want to make an attempt at learning and fail at it. For my students like that, it is my job to get them to see that learning isn’t all or nothing. Every day you should learn new things and when you do, that may (or may not) change how you do something.
So, please, for the sake of your children, stop TRYING to figure out what to do to help them be the best they can be and IMPLEMENT a new idea or two today that will create a new dynamic in your family. Get the help you need NOW. Don’t wait. Watch how that works, if it works well, continue doing it – if not, change to something else.
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